A Reader Writes:
I am having a tough time recently and realizing the absence offriends in my life. They’ve been left behind in other cities, old jobs,etc, and I never really made any close “mom” friends. Your blog is asource of comfort in that respect, but it’s hard to beat flesh andblood friends. How do you make and keep friends when everyone is sowrapped up in their own families and duties?
Moms really do need friends. Young moms and new moms need even moresocial contact and support than others do. When I was a mother of just2 or 3 small children, I suffered through some times when I feltterribly lonely and isolated. I spent lots of time on the phone with mysisters and other nearby friends. I reached out to other mothers in myparish and sought out playgroups in my area. I had a real need for thekind of encouragement and support that can only come from other momswho shared similar values, frustrations, and experiences.
But it can be hard for some mothers to find that kind of socialinteraction and friendship when they need it most. And it can be harderstill to keep up with friends as your family and your children grow. Soreaders, share your experiences… Have you struggled with this issue?How have you resolved it? Where do you find social support and how doyou manage to maintain friendships with mothers who are like you?