May 2nd, 2016

[podcast] How to Set and Achieve Your Goals #018

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NOTES
This week we take on GOALS! How to set them and how to achieve them! Let’s do this!

After a check-in on our previous topic of 3 Do-able Health Goals for 2016, I recommend the following ways to approach setting and achieving goals:

1) Pray! It is so important to approach life’s big decisions and goals prayerfully. Spend some time asking God what he thinks you should be doing to grow in holiness each day and then set your life goals accordingly.

2) Write down your goals. Somehow, goals become more real when we dare to write them down. this forces us to organize our thoughts and be more precise with our hopes and dreams then just “Maybe someday …” kind of wish-making.

3) Share them with someone. This step booth holds you accountable and gains you a partner in achieving your goals. Friends, family, kids, husbands can all support and encourage you if you let them them know what you are hoping to accomplish.

4) Just do it! It sounds simple and dumb, maybe but sometimes we need a reminder that we can just begin working toward our goals. We need to give ourselves permission to begin working right ow, instead of waiting for the “perfect time” which never will come anyway.

Let me know your thoughts on this topic of setting and achieving goals. What are your goals in health & fitness, homemaking, relationships, work or spirituality? What helps you set goals and keep on track once you do?

INTERVIEW
This week I share a fun conversation I had with Alicia Hernon, co-host of the Messy Parenting podcast. Alicia, a mom of 10, is a veteran who shares from the heart about how to take small steps toward improving your parenting and your marriage. She is a delight to talk to and I just know you will enjoy our conversation. Check out the Messy Parenting podcast she creates with her husband Mike at MessyParenting.org

CHALLENGE
This week’s challenge is to pick one of your goals and then work backwards to smaller steps it will take to achieve it. Get it down to small enough steps that there is some action you can take toward your goal today. And then DO IT! Go you!

FEEDBACK
I share feedback from listener Tracy who adds her thoughts to our recent discussion on saying no and tells how much she enjoyed hearing from Minnesota Mom, Margaret Berg, recently. Also, the lovely Alice left a review at iTunes this week. If you have the time, go there and leave your review/subscribe to the podcast now. Thank you!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

SUPPORT

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Also mentioned in this episode:

My new book! Here is a look at the cover and some information about its content.

My Fitness pal app (calorie tracking)

Greg and Jennifer Willits (who share about weight loss on their podcast)

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April 25th, 2016

[podcast] Splitting Housework, Splitting Hairs #017

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This week we take on the tricky topic of splitting household chores between husband and wife. I share three different thoughts for ways to approach this issue:

1) Evaluate what is important to you, both personally and as a couple.

2) Talk about your priorities and make a plan to tackle the work that needs to be done AS A TEAM. Not me versus you. You are a TEAM and together you can take on anything!

3) Change your attitude. From selfishness toward generosity. Reflect on where those angry resentful thoughts are truly coming from and learn to reject them, first in your own heart, but then in your words and actions.

Let me know your thoughts on this topic and what the split of household duties looks like inside of your marriage. Are you focused on “fairness” and winding up resentful and unhappy? Or are you learning to “let go” and open your heart to the joys has planned for you in your marital relationship when you approach it with a generous attitude of self-giving love?

INTERVIEW
This week I share a recent conversation I had with Diana von Glahn from The Faithful Traveler. Diana and her husband David produce a Catholic-themed travel TV show which is both beautiful and inspiring. Diana shares about their work as well as some her personal and professional challenges and triumphs. You will love what she shares!

CHALLENGE
This week’s challenge is to spend some time reflecting on what your thoughts and attitudes are toward household duties, and then spend some time in prayer. Open your heart to really hear what God wants to tell you for the benefit of your marriage.

FEEDBACK
I share feedback from listener Annie who adds her thoughts to our recent discussion on prayer. Also, three lovely ladies left reviews at iTunes this week. If you have the time, go there and leave your review/subscribe to the podcast now. Thank you!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

Also mentioned in this episode:

My new book! Here is a look at the cover and some information about its content.

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April 25th, 2016

Coming Very Soon … My New Book!

You're Worth It FC

I am excited to share with you the cover of my newest book, due out (very!) soon from Beacon Publishing.

I just got the final cover last week, and I have to say: I love it. I think the color is perfect, and I really love that there is not an image beyond the type on the cover. I think cover images can sometimes be confusing or limiting or distracting from the message of the book, and this is one book I want to be sure every reader experiences in the way God wants her to.

I say HER because this is a book written just for women. I am really eager to share it with you because its subject is so close to my heart.

You’re Worth It! is a book to encourage every woman to develop a close relationship with Jesus. Every woman wants to be loved, and this book shares about the soul-satisfying, life-changing kind of love we can only get from Jesus. I explore seven themes, based on Jesus’ real-life interactions with real women in the Gospels, and share what we can learn from them about God’s unique love for women.

Stay tuned here for more details about You’re Worth It!

April 18th, 2016

[podcast] How to Say No Nicely #016

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This week’s show comes to you from the ball field (near the port-a-potty!) and we are talking about saying “no” nicely. Why do we nee this topic? Because so many of us are so very bad at setting boundaries! We talk about some ways to prioritize your commitments and prepare yourself ahead of time so that you don’t wind up committing to things you don;t value at the expense of yourself or your family.

We all need this topic! Just thinking things through ahead of time and being ready with a phrase like “Let me think about that and get back to you” or “I love what you are doing, but I just cant commit to participating right now” can be very helpful in the moment when you are tempted to say YES out of guilt or anything less than a real desire to spend your time on that thing.

INTERVIEW
This week I share a recent conversation I had with Minnesota Mom, Margaret Berns, whom I have known and loved online and IRL for many years. Margaret shares the good, the bad, the ugly and is unafraid to take on even the toughest of topics — depression and sex. You know you need to hear what she has to say!

SHOUT OUT
This week’s Girlfriends Shout-out goes to listener Carmen who wrote to share that, despite her hurt feelings and suffering a recent miscarriage, she is making an effort to spend more time alone with her husband in order to improve her marriage. A very inspiring small act of generosity and love during a difficult time. You inspire me, Carmen!

CHALLENGE
This week’s challenge is to consider how you feel about saying NO in your life. What could use some work? Plan now for how you are going to say NO the next time you need to and prioritize your personal commitments in a way that lines up with your values.

FEEDBACK
I share feedback from listener Dena who asks for advice about kids owning/sharing toys, and from Erica in Orlando who shares her thoughts about Girlfriends. Thanks so much, ladies!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

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Books mentioned:
The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting With Your Husband Mind Body Heart Spirit
The Love Dare
Margaret’s S-E-X blog posts:
A Free Pre Valentines Message
About Last Night
Reflections on the Feast

THAT HILARIOUS PICTURE OF BABY DANIEL REJECTING SWEET MARGARET:

crying Daniel

Other Things Mentioned in This Episode
Together In Holiness (Catholic marriage conferences)

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April 11th, 2016

[podcast] The Truth About Prayer #015

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This week’s topic is prayer. How has the way you approach prayer changed over your lifetime? How should we respond when it seems that God does not answer our prayers? What is the point of prayer? And what can we do when it feels like God is far away?

INTERVIEW
The inspiration for this topic comes from my interview with author Hallie Lord. Hallie’s new book, On The Other Side of Fear, will be out this summer so she shares about that topic, but also about prayer and ways in which she experiences God’s presence in her life.

SHOUT OUT
This week’s Girlfriends Shout-out goes to listener Jen who wrote to ask for resources for marriage support for couples who are often far away from one another. She has been working on her relationship with her husband who is a truck driver and often is gone for long periods of time. We are proud of you, Jen, for taking those small but important steps toward softening your heart and opening yourself up to growing in love and sacrifice in your marriage. Great job! (And we will do more podcasts on this topic in the future.)

CHALLENGE
This week’s challenge is to think about your prayer life. What needs improving? Are you in a rut? Do you need to seek some spiritual advice from a priest or get yourself to confession? Do you need to make greater use of the sacraments? Do you need to make greater efforts toward finding time for daily prayer? Decide what needs improvement, and then commit to making a small step toward that improvement this week.

FEEDBACK
I share feedback from Mary Lenaberg (from Passionate Perseverance) who is suffering from the flu. :( Also, listener Ginny checks in and Sarah Reinhard as well. Thanks so much for your voice feedback. It makes my day!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

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Hallie’s book: On the Other Side of Fear
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Where I Will Be Next Weekend!
April 16: Our Lady’s Luncheon, Basilica of the Immaculate Conception, Waterbury, CT
See you there!

Other Things Mentioned in This Episode
Kelly Wahlquist’s ministry, WINE, Women in the New Evangelization
Karen Edmisten’s book on miscarriage, After Miscarriage: A Catholic Woman’s Companion to Healing and Hope
Book of Confidence (prayer book)

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April 4th, 2016

[podcast] Survival Tips for Busy Days #014

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This week we are talking about ways we can survive — and even thrive! — when times are busy. Whether it’s during baseball season (like us!) or other busy times, there are some simple ways to make sure you and your family make it through packed calendar days.

Lower your standards.
What can you let go of during a busy time? Homemade meals, housework, or kids’ nightly bath times? Now is the time to accept the less-than-perfect in exchange for keeping sane.

Ask for help.
It can be humbling to have to ask for help, but there are people in our lives who can support us and pitch in sometimes, if only we will ask. It can even be mutually beneficial to ask for help from friends and extended family members sometimes. It may not take a village, but it does take many hands and helpers to raise a family!

Take care of yourself (and your relationships).
Sometimes the first thing we let go of when it comes to busy days is the acre we need to give ourselves. Whether it’s proper nutrition, rest, or exercise we often put ourselves last when we get crunched for time. But when life gets busy you need to take care of yourself more than ever, so that you will have the strength and stamina to care for others. Also important is to remember to care for our relationships, especially our marriages, because these can get neglected and suffer if we are too busy.

INTERVIEW
In this week’s interview I get to chat with Kathryn Whitaker who blogs at Team Whitaker. Kathryn shares beautifully about her triumphs as a mom of a preemie baby. She also discusses the craziness of busy family schedules and shares how her family once “pulled the plug” on EVERYTHING with wonderful results. Kathryn also shares her success with Fr. Michael Gaitley’s book, 33 Days to Morning Glory.

SHOUT OUT
This week’s Girlfriends Shout-out goes to listener Renee who wrote to ask about handling an unruly 2-year-old at Mass. Hang in there, Renee. You are doing great, and you will get through this! :)

CHALLENGE
This week’s challenge is to think about your family’s schedule and discuss your outside commitments as a family. Decide together if the activities you are committed to are really serving your family’s needs and priorities. Let me know how it goes for you!

FEEDBACK

I am still looking for questions for a fun new project I am working on related to the podcast. What do you want to know? About my life, my work, my opinions,? Ask me anything! You can leave questions here or email me any time. Thank you! If you have a moment, please fill out this brief form to share your opinion about Girlfriends. Don’t be shy! It’s anonymous, and your feedback is so helpful to me!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

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Team Whitaker
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Kathryn on Pinterest
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Some Places I Will Be!
April 9: Living in Truth, Kansas City Catholic Women’s Conference
April 16: Our Lady’s Luncheon, Basilica of the Immaculate Conception, Waterbury, CT

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March 28th, 2016

[podcast] Easy Ways to Improve Your Marriage #013

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This week, we are talking about ways to improve our marriages. My title is a little wrong because the ways I share for improving your marriage may not necessarily be “easy,” but they are simple.

Give up negativity.
Do you tend to have negative interactions and conversations with your husband? It’s an easy habit to fall into, but don’t be a downer! Look for ways to have positive conversations with your husband and to avoid whining, complaining, and focusing on the bad stuff.

Be active together.
Think of ways that the two of you can share a project together when you have time alone. When we share tasks, common goals bring us together and make feel part of the same “team.” Find a simple thing the two of you can work on together in a positive way.

Do more than your share.
Stop keeping score of who does what and what is “fair” with regard to household chores. Give up the idea that everything in marriage is supposed to be 50/50. It never will be and life is not fair! Give yourself the peace of mind and heart that come from letting go of fairness and looking to give generously inside of your relationship.

Use the power of prayer.
Praying with your spouse is a powerful way to grow spiritually and personally inside of your relationship, but even if you and your husband aren’t there yet, you can use prayer to improve your marriage by praying FOR your husband daily. Also powerful are the small ways that we can offer up marital sacrifices and inconveniences for the benefit of our relationships. Grow closer to Jesus while praying for your husband and asking for healing in your marriage.

INTERVIEW
In this week’s interview I talk with author/blogger Jeannie Ewing who writes and shares from the unique perspective of a mom with two beautiful daughters who have special needs. Jeannie shares from the heart about her experiences as a mom, her writing goals, and ways in which she had grown both personally and professionally over the years.

SHOUT OUT
This week’s Girlfriends Shout-out goes to listener Claire who wrote to share about working on being faithful to a daily routine with regard to housework, meals, and caring for kids.

CHALLENGE
This week’s challenge is to think about the ways of improving your marriage that we talked bout. pick one that speaks to you especially and focus on it in the coming week. Look for ways to improve your marriage, making one small change, each day this week. Then let me know how you do!

FEEDBACK

I am still looking for questions for a fun new project I am working on related to the podcast. What do you want to know? About my life, my work, my opinions,? Ask me anything! You can leave questions here or email me any time. Thank you! If you have a moment, please fill out this brief form to share your opinion about Girlfriends. Don’t be shy! It’s anonymous, and your feedback is so helpful to me!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

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Jeannie Ewing
Jeannie’s websites:
From Grief to Grace
Love Alone Creates
Jeannie’s blog

Some Places I Will Be!
March 29-31 NCEA convention in San Diego
April 9: Living in Truth, Kansas City Catholic Women’s Conference
April 16: Our Lady’s Luncheon, Basilica of the Immaculate Conception, Waterbury, CT

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March 21st, 2016

[podcast] How To Be a Better Friend #012

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This week, we are talking about the Communion of Saints, the power of friendships, and how to help those we love when they suffer.

Sarah Reinhard shares some touching feedback about how she supports a family member through a time of terrible loss and we talk about small ways to show love, friendship, and support to those who are suffering, even if we can’t “fix” every problem they face.

In this week’s interview, I talk with Michele Faehnle, co-author of Divine Mercy for Moms: Sharing the Lessons of St. Faustina. Michele shares her struggles and triumphs as a mom and as new author, as well as ways she seeks balance between family and work opportunities. She also describes some special ways that you can participate in works of mercy, even if you are a busy woman with many responsibilities.

This week’s Girlfriends Shout-out goes to Christine Vecko who wrote to share about fighting the good fight of potty training. Keep it up, Christine! You (and Bryce) will triumph in the end! I guarantee it.

This week’s challenge is to think about your relationships and friendships with other women in your life and resolve to approach one of these relationships with a new commitment to giving. So often we are self-seeking in our relationships with others and it’s friendship-feeding when we can focus on the other and meeting the needs of the other first and foremost. Let me know how you do!

FEEDBACK
I want to thank listeners Tracye1, Beckysuem, and MariaMurph for leaving reviews on iTunes this week. It is so helpful to have those reviews and so encouraging to me as I produce the podcast each week. If you can spare a moment to leave an iTunes review, I would be so grateful. Also, please be sure to rate and subscribe while you are there. It really helps me get the word out about Girlfriends.

Listener Deanna left some voicemail with information and pronunciation help about the San Damiano crucifix I mentioned on the show 2 weeks ago. See her comments and links here. Also, Melissa left a message asking for resources and links and ideas about blended families. She would love to improve her relationship with her stepsons and I know she is not alone in facing this challenge. Send me your ideas and I can put them together in a future show.

And finally, I asked you to please send me your questions for afun new project I am working on related to the podcast. What do you want to know? About my ife, my work, my opinions,? Ask me anything! You can leave questions here or email me any time. Thank you! If you have a moment, please fill out this brief form to share your opinion about Girlfriends. Don’t be shy! It’s anonymous, and your feedback is so helpful to me!

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your encouragement and support of Girlfriends means so much and I am so grateful for your presence here. God bless your week!

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Michele Faehnle
Michele’s book, Divine Mercy for Moms: Sharing the Lessons of St. Faustina
About Michele and her co-author Emily Jaminet
Mercy Jar project with labels
Divine Mercy for Moms book trailer

Some Places I Will Be!
March 29-31 NCEA convention in San Diego
April 9: Living in Truth, Kansas City Catholic Women’s Conference
April 16: Our Lady’s Luncheon, Basilica of the Immaculate Conception, Waterbury, CT

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