Like I said, interesting. When I originally read Pam’s review, I was not at all surprised to see that she had a problem with my critique of Attachment Parenting. Anyone who reads the Heart Mind & Strength blog knows that the writers there are big-time proponents of AP. They promote it strongly and with the best of intentions because they really do believe in its benefits for families.
But my critique of AP philosophy has nothing to do with the benefits of co-sleeping or exclusive breastfeeding. My problem has always been with the way proponents of any parenting philosophy sometimes present their personal preferences as the “only way” or the “Catholic way” or the “best way” for everyone to parent. The only parenting philosophy I would dare say that about is the one I wrote about in Mom to Mom:
“I’ve been employing the Do What Works Best for Your Family philosophy for many happy guilt-free years now. In fact, as I have watched my babies throughout the years, this much is apparent: Babies don’t care what we call it. They know when they are loved are cared for. They know when their mothers are relaxed and happy. So when presented with a parental challenge, go ahead and read the books, talk to the experts, and survey your playgroup. In the end, however, take and use only what works best for you and your family. Toss the rest … and the guilt along with it.”
It is with fear and trepidation that I step into the waters of parenting philosophy discussion, but I am interested in what readers have to say here.
UPDATE again: Comments closed.